Did you actually call it whiteness?

That might be kind of important in setting the tone. I mean, one very common reason why people might feel attacked is because you're attacking them.

"Hi, let me gently explain to you my pain and worry to garner your compassion, using these swords and spears forged in the fires of anti-racist dialect" is a really huge risk factor these days. The language is meant for righteous battle, not for sympathy.