Er--aren't you 'splaining my own experiences to me and telling me why they're not valid, despite me having actually done something to gain first-person experience about the situation and you apparently not?

Should I attribute this lack of being taken seriously to me being male and you being female (at least as far as our names suggest)?

I never suggested Rini's piece about her experiences shouldn't be listened to. But it sure sounds like you're saying my reply about mine shouldn't be.