I am not sure to what extent I should agree about the necessity of the requests as stated. When phrased the way you do, in the abstract, it seems totally reasonable. But when I think about specific areas of contention--for instance, do you need any sort of medical anything to be "officially trans", or is it always and only say-it-and-it's-true--it's sometimes hard for me to see where the strict necessity comes from as opposed to it being convenient or affirming or something.

Regarding majority views on what trans advocates ask for, are you sure about that in the U.K.? There was a survey on this pretty recently...I'll dig it up if you haven't seen it...but depending on the question asked, it was absolutely not the case that most people were fine with all the asks. Some things were fine with almost everyone (IIRC shelters for abused women should admit abused trans women was endorsed by everyone), and something about trans women sans any gender-affirming therapy doing...I forget what...was opposed by almost every group.

So, no, I'm not convinced that the fantasy isn't exactly backwards from what you're saying, that is, "you have to fight hard and then you get all the rewards" is the fantasy. The take home message for me from that poll was the more it's about protection and self-care the more it's supported, and the more about it's demanding inclusion and changes everywhere, especially when demonstration of need is lessened, the less it's supported.

Anyway, if you haven't seen that one, I'll dig it up. I found it really interesting. It demolished any speculations I had of the public being binarized between entirely-pro-trans and committed-transphobes.