It had to be, because you were making an argument that hinged on a definition that was stronger than normal (and which you pointed out, fortunately).

However, I did not suggest that people's autonomy should not be respected or that it was not important. The closest I got was to say, "One can be considerate and not force one's will on others, but still treat interactions as a give and take, not "one suggestion of a no and you back off forever, period, end of story"."

If your interactions with others are not a give and take, it's not a very functional relationship; it's barely a relationship at all. What I am arguing for is healthy, respectful relationships, not only declarations that make everyone an island unto themselves.

And the normal definitions of persuasion reach way into the realm of healthy and respectful give and take.