It's very brave to start to identify with a community and have the clarity of sight to realize that they're wrong, and the strength of will (or moral clarity) to turn away.

It seems that much bravery is called for these days, alas.

There are pipelines aplenty ready to pour you off into vicious indoctrination self-styled as moral righteousness. The alt-right one isn't the only one, though it's a big one, and a particularly pernicious one. The need to be an oasis of reason in a desert of mob mentality is no less, even if the source was wrong.

One of our biggest problems as humans is mob mentality. Another big related problem is tribalism. If you're in a mob, you can do anything, almost no matter how horrible. If your tribe is threatened, you can take any action to save it, almost no matter how horrible.

The cohesion of a strong tribe is delightful, and the mutual aid you can get within a functional tribe is lovely. But there is always the danger, if you're not cautious, of it turning to evil. The mob feels nothing, the tribe feels nothing; they are just the collective behavior of their members. And so it falls to the members to check the excesses of that form of organization.

So I'm afraid, whatever table you're at, you'll have to keep asking yourself: are those around me doing what we claim to hate?

Good luck! It's a challenging world out there.