Okay, but most of us would love to live in a house but not if it's going to make us sick (mold in the walls, lead pipes, etc.). "I don't need housing" isn't really a thing, though. "OMG, fix this rubbish housing" is a thing.

Now, if someone says, "Actually, I'm sick of this. I don't need housing, I live in my car now and it's honestly great," then we could say, "Okay, I get you, it's true, you can live on the street or in your car. It's wretched that our society has so few good housing opportunities that you have to do that, but given the sorry state of affairs, I can respect that choice. I'm glad it's working out so well for you."

So far it's all the same.

Where it differs is that we don't say, "Yeah, you know what, nobody needs housing to live." When someone says, "I reeeally want housing but the options I see are so bad, I'm about ready to give up," our reply usually isn't, "That's just the conditioning of the sheltocracy talking--you really don't need it." It is (ideally) usually something more like, "Wow, that's rough, let's see if there's anything we can do."

The solution to the homelessness epidemic in the United States is not to decide that people didn't need homes to begin with.

So I think there's a really important point here, more to Simon than you, because he was the one who made the llama analogy and advised men to just not need a llama, but for real.

Although he phrased it in a highly positive way, deep down it's as profoundly heartless as saying to someone who's about to be evicted and is sour-grapesing "I don't need housing" that, "Yeah, and quit whining about it, you seriously don't," instead of taking their revealed preference seriously, understanding that it's a very natural basic human desire, and not doubling down on what seems like a coping mechanism that should never have had to be activated in the first place.

None of this says that incels and the misogynists and the hardcore manosphere guys (lots of overlap there, obviously) are correct any more than people wanting housing says that people should live in dank mold-infested housing at exorbitant rates to line the pockets of unscrupulous corporate developers.