The way you phrase this makes it sound like this is even remotely contemporary. Patriarchy is like ten thousand years old. White supremacy was at a maximum like 300 years ago. What "simple human interactions" are you thinking about, precisely?

Are you, perchance, confusing the intense contemporary hyperfocus on identity and oppression advocated by much of academia and the progressive left with the actual impact of identity and oppression on people's lives in modern social democracies as opposed to thousands of years of history of most human beings?

This isn't to say that women's safety is where it ought to be, especially in the United States (among economically advanced countries). It's absolutely not, and it's terrible that it's not, and you make good points about the ways in which it is not.

But your grief about this seems either highly anachronistic or deeply misplaced.