Well, I suppose this could be true but I can't think of any examples either way--can you give any recent examples where a (somewhat prominent--"influencer" popularity at least) cis woman has done similar things sans pushback?

Anyway, my point was only that the type of argument you were making is highly problematic. If you want instead to make the point that it should be no big deal because it'd be no big deal if a cis woman did the exact same thing, you should be making that point to Phoebe, not me, instead of the envy jibe.