Well, there's a psychological effect that pretty much is exactly what I'm saying (see overview at https://medium.com/homeland-security/the-social-psychology-of-the-backfire-effect-locking-up-the-gears-of-your-mind-a79d4e6e8061).

But does it matter?

Hostile rhetoric deepens polarization in general (here's a particularly clear cross-country analysis in the political realm: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0261379424000039, and here's another focused specifically on the impact of hostile internet interactions: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1940161217740697).

If someone has an entrenched belief, establishing some degree of rapport or respect has been shown to be an important component, in addition to appropriate rebuttal strategies (see e.g. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-art-of-critical-thinking/202309/how-to-engage-an-entrenched-believer).

Positive, compassionate interactions with women, and supportive interactions with men seem to be features of exiting the manosphere (see e.g. https://www.forbes.com/sites/traversmark/2024/07/04/why-men-enter-and-exit-the-manosphere-by-a-psychologist/).