When trans people are asking cis people for things, then it becomes a trans person problem.

This is how communication works: it's the one who needs something who has the bigger problem when communication breaks down.

For instance, if cis people "need" trans people to look or act a certain way, and trans people don't, that's a cis person problem. If trans people "need" cis people to change a category they have established, and cis people don't, that's a trans person problem.

It's hard to coexist in a society without a communications breakdown being a problem on both sides, because in societies we typically need things from each other.

Anyway, no, the misapprehension of the nature of categories that I'm describing isn't adequately captured by the "western society" paragraph. But you show little interest in engaging with the topic, so never mind! I don't think this bodes well for communications you might have with people who disagree with you regarding the nature of gender, but, as you might say, that's a you problem.

Were I to try to belabor the point, I'd have a me problem, so I'll decline.