Yes, either take it or retaliate in kind; this is the kind of thing that ordinary resiliency ought to cover.

Legislating every nuance of civil behavior is a lost cause. Reasonable people can have good reasons for wanting things a certain way, and are justified therefore in applying weak social pressure towards their goal; and other reasonable people can have good reasons for wanting them differently, and are justified in applying weak social pressure in a different direction.

If someone is all huffy because you didn't hold the door for them, or they are all huffy because you did hold the door for them, you can either accept the feedback that this person wished for the opposite, or you can be all huffy back to let them know that you think the matter doesn't warrant being huffy (but being huffy for insufficient reason does warrant being huffy).

Nobody dies in this scenario. Reasonable grown-ups ought to be able to navigate this kind of thing just fine.